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Quote by trooper4
JSquared101, for me (trying to explain - not attacking here at all), it actually has nothing to do with me being a "single male"; I am a very polite individual and always have been/always will be, and while I can understand what you are expressing, I am not who you were trying to define. 
I have been in the lifestyle since my mid 20s (late 30s now) and I still think it is polite to respond to a message - takes no time at all in my opinion; I am not sure why there was a need to demean singles and to make it sound like I respond because I'm "desperate" - sorry, I am not desperate and as most - I look for real people who I can trust and get to know (and hopefully well, before ever meeting - and, I like to meet casually and or at a party, before ever playing - I don't think I have ever just jumped into things without a first meet & greet). 
My profile even expresses, from others, how polite I am. 
So I wouldn't judge others on their marital/relationship/non relationship status, but that is my perspective (yours differs, just please don't attack me personally because I take the time to respond to others and that has nothing to do with me being single) 

You are reading a lot into my response that I never said or intended. I never meant to imply you were the person I was defining.

My point about you being a single male is that you very likely don't receive the same volume of mail that I do. I have done experiments with changing my gender. It makes a HUGE difference. So responding wouldn't take you nearly as long as it would take me.

Just because it's polite to respond does not mean it's impolite to ignore. I think it's unfair to judge me impolite because I choose not to respond, especially since I tell people my expectations upfront in my profile.

we reply to all messages regardless if we are interested or not... just because of the fact that we have sent out lots of messages and got no reply,  nothing but crickets... we just don't want to be as rude as many are by not replying to someone that took the time to show us some interest

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Quote by 1funcouple4fun
However we do hate the constant looks in our profile and likes but not getting a message.

And I feel the complete opposite of that. I feel it very strongly. I absolutely do NOT want people jumping into our inbox to say they like our profile. I do specifically state that on our profile, but a number of people don't read or don't respect that.
I take no issue whatsoever with someone checking out our profile and liking our pictures. If I didn't want people to see them, I wouldn't put them out there. But our profile is simply a way for us to communicate with people we've already met. Or for allowing people to get in touch with me regarding the events I organize.
Just because someone likes your pictures does not mean they are interested in chatting or meeting.
And a profile view is completely meaningless. I am extremely careful not to hover over avatars which triggers a view, but it still happens far too often when scrolling through our feed or forums. It also happens often when I click X on a notification.
What I find really annoying is when someone likes that I viewed their profile. I hide the activity for people who do that. For one thing, I didn't actually view their profile. Two, if they want to like something, I would prefer they like our pictures or profile.

 Guess I will clarify. We totally get the cursor hover part, It is the constant looking of our profile and liking it by the same person over and over and no message, even when sending them a message thanking for the profile like. We do like getting pic likes and everything else. if we did not want people looking at our profile we would not have one..

Quote by doubletroublecouple
if they send us a message and we respond and they don't respond back that makes me scratch my head ... it's like YOU sent US a message.... ?

 I think its ridiculous how many do this. Like come on we are not kids playing games

As a single male, I've had plenty of couples look at my profile almost daily and never send a message or a like.   They look at photos, video, profile over and over.   If they read my profile then they will see that I wont message a couple first.   

There should be nothing wrong with sending a message to say you liked something about somebody's profile and to say hi.   Unfortunately there is so I live by those rules

I get frustrated when people are messaging with you back and forth then nothing  and when you text them again, your blocked  Why not let us know you aren’t interested instead  We do, on the other hand, try to meet people but the fact is, our lifestyle is demanding and causes us to break our plans from time to time  and it can run into lengthy periods  can’t explain it and be discreet at the same time

Generally I'll (Mr) will reply to a message.  Never to a wink or album invites.  I have locked many of our photos due to the complaint of many here, that is those who keep looking but never send.  If I get a serious contact, then I'm more than happy to open the extra profile pictures.  These sites are full of people who just browse away, never intending to actually contact.  A wink may be just a part of the fantasy of the moment.