No, you can't delete the "liked that you viewed their profile" and "liked that you viewed their photo" notices. Or at least, I can't. Maybe that is an Extras option? What I can do is hide all their activity. But then if they actually do like or comment on something, it won't show in my feed.

No, you can't hide your activities from others. I've looked and could not find a setting for that. Since you mentioned it, I thought that it could be an Extras setting, but support says there is no such setting.

I've done some testing and I think I see now why these notices might not be so annoying to others. For most, they are probably just mixed in with a sea of notices. For me, they are the only thing I see. I have set it so that we have 0 matches. I use our feed to read comments and preview messages. When I clear our notifications for messages, comments, and likes, our feed is empty. Or it used to be until these "liked that you viewed" notices started showing up.

Aside from disliking the clutter, I still think it's a bit creepy to "like" that someone glanced in your general direction. If I was interested, I would have liked something or commented on something or sent them a message. All I did was view the mini popup profile.

In any case, it's not the end of the world, but I am curious to know if anyone likes to have this info? If so, do you see it as flirting? Or what?

Does anyone like to know this info? I find these notifications really annoying, especially since I didn't really view their profile in most cases. I just accidentally left my mouse in one spot too long.

I've gotten to the point that I am so paranoid about where I pause my mouse when scrolling. I've actually had to hide a couple of people because it was like there was a feedback loop. I'd accidentally "view" their profile somewhere, they'd like that, I'd accidentally "view" their profile again while scrolling the notifications in our feed, and they'd like that AGAIN.

Really? What does viewing tell you, even IF it was intentional? It's not like I clicked like on anything or commented on anything. To me, it's akin to having someone come over and start talking to me every time I glance in their general direction. If someone thinks I might be "making eye contact" and wants to "hold my gaze", I'd much prefer that they like something of ours or comment on something.

There is an on-premise club in Amherst called Club ESP. We've been there a number of times. They usually have parties in the spring, summer, and fall. No dates have been announced yet.

There is a group that does hotel dances in Halifax called Club Eclipse. We've been to a few dances. They are currently trying to find a new venue, though, so no upcoming dates at this time.

There was a group in Bridgewater, but I don't think they are active anymore. There are a number of private parties once you start to get to know people. There's also an on-premise club in Moncton if you're willing to travel.

The lifestyle is active but very secretive around here. A great way to get your foot in the door is to come to my Meet and Greet in Bedford. The next one is in May. After that, there probably won't be another one until September.

@Friends4Life ~ Vouches have higher status because you do need to become friends. It was too easy to verify someone you didn't even know. Vouches are more reliable because you have to be friends and they have a comment attached. People are less likely to fake a vouch.

They have done away with member verification. They are promoting the photo verification. You don't need to be friends with anyone to do that.

Well, it seems SH heard you. LOL I don't know if it's a coincidence or not, but I just saw a notice on the home page about getting verified. I wonder if it will make much of a difference. They've highlighted it on the search page, too, so that might help.

I'm not asking what kind of partners you are looking for, but rather what kind of profile catches your eye, or turns you off?

I (female half) come across very few profiles that really impress me. It's just one reason why I prefer to meet people at events rather than trawl through hundreds of profiles.

I also come across quite a number of profiles that are a complete turn off. What's more, I often see these people complaining about their lack of success finding people who are willing to meet. Coincidence?

I occasionally browse through the search results. I completely ignore those who have no profile picture. I really don't care if they have other pictures on their profile. If they can't be bothered to upload a single non-adult picture to use as their profile picture, I don't give them a second glance.

If the picture is unclear or mostly blocked out, I probably won't click through. If they don't show their distance from my location, I probably won't click through.

I like profiles that have more than one or two public pictures. I like to see pictures that show some character and not just the fact that they have genitals. When looking at a couple profile, I want to see pictures of him too, not just her. I like pictures that show faces and body type, but at least one or the other. Genital closeups don't impress me. And if that's all there is, it turns me off.

I do check to see if they are member verified or have any vouches. I also check to see if we have any mutual friends. These things aren't must-haves, but definitely a bonus. They also get bonus points for proper spelling, grammar, punctuation, and paragraphs.

I like a write up that says something about who they are and what they are looking for, not just one or the other. If they are looking for FWB, I expect to see something about their interests. What do they like to do outside the bedroom? Too many profiles just say something about spicing up their sex lives, and not much else. I'm pretty sure most of us are here to spice up our sex lives. Tell me something I don't know.

Also, if a profile doesn't say much at all and tells me to ask about what I want to know, I move on. To me, a profile like that says one of two things... either they are extremely uninteresting or they are lazy. I'm not interested in playing 20 questions.

A profile that is full of negatives is a complete turn off. A profile that has an antagonistic tone directed at all the people they don't want will have me clicking the back button in a hurry. I quickly pass on profiles that display a frustrated or defensive attitude. I look for profiles that are upbeat and display an attitude that tells me they might be fun to hang out with.

What do you look for?

Yes, you are being judged. We all are! EVERYONE looks at a profile and JUDGES whether or not it is someone they would be compatible with. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Now if someone jumps into your inbox to criticize you, well that's pretty low. Be thankful that they revealed themselves for what they are, block, and move on. There are asshats everywhere. We regularly get people jumping into our inboxes who obviously don't read or choose to ignore what's stated in our profile.

There are plenty of people on here that come out from behind their computer screens. But as I just posted in another thread, it takes a lot of effort and patience to wade through all the other profiles to find the ones who are actually willing to meet in real life. And you are likely to have an even harder time because the odds are stacked against you. Single males are a dime a dozen. And as Mr OFL stated, some couples won't even consider a married man. Some will consider a married man if they can confirm with his spouse. You don't mention that confirming with your spouse is an option, so one would assume that it isn't. That narrows your choices considerably.

I (female half) highly doubt there is anything unique about Edmonton. Trying to find people online for a real life meet takes a lot of work and patience, no matter who you are, where you are located, or what site you use.

Not everyone is here for the same reasons. Some people are just curious. Some just want to chat online. Some just want to cam or exchange pics. Some people display unpleasant attitudes in their messages.

And then even among those who are serious about meeting in real life, not everyone is looking for the same thing. Some are looking for NSA and some are looking for FWB. Some are looking for full swap and some are looking for soft swap. Add in body type, sexual orientation, and a bunch of other likes and dislikes, and you might begin to see how complicated it really is.

If you are looking for FWB, that adds another element of complexity. Not only do you all have to find each other attractive enough, but you actually have to like one another enough to want to spend more than an evening together. It's hard enough to find vanilla couple friends that you want to hang out with regularly.

We belong to several sites, but we don't use them to find play partners. We use them to connect with people we've met at events (parties, clubs, meet & greets). There are plenty of serious people on here, but you have to wade through the rest to find them. Personally, I find it a lot easier to meet people by just getting out there in real life. That instantly eliminates all those who are online-only types.

I don't get the point of image verification. I'm considering doing it simply because I'm annoyed by the nag on the home page. But how does it weed out fakes? Personally, I put much more stock in member verification and vouches.