I came to the Swing Heaven forum hoping there would be a CD chat. Glad I found it.

If I am going to pay for a membership, it will be for Swing Heaven. It's has all the bells and whistles. Like other people have said, the new Cafe Desire is lame and basic. The forum was the best part of CD and the now nobody is chatting.

I feel like the people who took it over new nothing about CD and what made it good. We definitely won't be paying aof ra membership unless there is a miraculour redesgn and people start flooding back to the site. I don't see that happening.

Sorry -- it's way too early to hold group play sessions at a club.
In fact it is borderline irresponsible. 

We once chatted with a couple online who told us it is very likely we would never met. He was posting sexy pictures of his girlfriend because she had just come out of a bad relationship and was having self-confidence issues. He posted the pics for the likes and nice comments, and the positive feedback was making her feel sexy again.

I actually thought that was very nice and appreciated them being honest with us.

Great responses by Fun4Her and Lifestyle duo. We agree with everything they both said.

We've only encountered one couple who we would consider to be pic collectors. We chatted with them over , and sent them some full body fully-clothed pics with our faces. They asked for more, so we sent a few more -- our clothes were on, but the pics give you an idea of exactly what we look like and our body type. Finally the couple said they weren't interested and stopped communicating because we did not send any nudes. 

I assume now they were only interested in messaging us for pics for their personal spank bank. 

We have some sexy photos of us on this site, but we never take nude action pics where you can see our faces. We are a private couple and don't want to risk the photos ended up online somewhere.

We had a few dates and parties lined up for the end of March/beginning of April, and they have all been cancelled.   It's unfortunate, but the right all.  We are taking a break from the LS for now.

One of the party organizers is coordinating an online party -- everyone logs in for a video chat party. If it works out, we might start reaching out and meeting couples online. Then when this all blows over, we will have some fun in-person date nights lined up.

Good luck from down the highway in Kingston!  Send us a PM if you have any questions. Happy to give advice on how to navigate this amazing lifestyle.

All great points -- especially No. 2. It's a big pet p[eeve for Mrs. KingstonFunCouple. I hate reading a great profile, the scrolling through 30 pics of a hot-looking woman and realizing there is not a single photo of the man. The Mrs. doesn't want to message a couple when we have zero idea of what the man looks like.  

Welcome Leed24! We have a friend who goes to a "darts league" in Ancaster. People play darts, but it's really a social get together for swingers. I have never been, but it is a great way to meet people and ask a lot of questions. 

The best thing we did when starting was get to know an experienced couple and ask a lot of questions. It really helped us figure out the swinging world quickly. If you are interested, send us a PM and I can give you some contact info.

Where do you live and where is the beach house? Your profile does not state your location. We might be interested if you are near Kingston.

jSquared: we could cut-and-paste your post and it would match our thoughts exactly.

I (Mr. writing) hate it when I come across a great profile featuring a sexy woman ... and then don't see a single good pic of the man. (Close up dick pics don't count.) We don't reach out because Mrs. KingstonFunCouple can't judge if there is any physical attraction.

We have met some great couples through this site, but we've also wasted a lot of time sending messages back-and-forth that end up going no where. We have starting going to clubs and parties more often because finding play partners through face-to-face meetings is much more quicker and efficient.

We have only been to Ozone and enjoyed it. There are lots of play rooms in the back and many friendly sexy people.

The only draw back is the music is so loud it can be hard to chat with people. So it's a great place to go with friends, but if you are meeting a new couple and want to chat and get to know them, make sure you go for dinner somewhere before hitting Ozone.

Annaand Bruno24 -- We have only been on Cafe Desire for a year, but I think some of the complaints are that it is not as supportive and welcoming as it used to be in the forums. Sometimes there was drama and debates in the forum. I remember some people writing that the vibe of the group had changed and was becoming more negative.

There was some drama, but most of the conversation were pleasant and we still enjoyed the website. I think the drama is the drawback of having a very active forum group. There are lots of people with various opinions on topics. It's inevitable that some people's will clash.

We had so much fun last time, we plan on going again on Aug. 18. Hope to see some of you there.

Mr. KingstonFunCouple has had a vasectomy but we still always play with condoms because we are concerned about STDs.

We like how it is done on Cafe Desire -- you list your height and weight. It's an honest assessment of what your body is like.

"Body type" can mean different things to different people. A big strong guy who goes to the gym and lifts weights all the time might describe himself as "athletic" whereas other might think he is "large."

PleasurePear13 posted in another forum thread that the site should be back up in a few days. I am not sure where she got the info from.

We agree pleasurepear15! For every ten couples we message, we meet about one or two. After a year of doing this, we are spending less time on SH and focusing on meeting people at parties. It is so much easier to meet a bunch of couples face to face. You know within a few minutes if there is a spark -- it's so much better than sending messages back and forth. 

Great time at Tribe -- about 80 couples there! Thanks to W&F for hosting a great party.

Weather is looking good for the weekend. Look forward to meeting everyone. This is going to be fun.

You won't find Tribe anywhere online.  It's a big private house party. You have to have someone vouch for you to the owners of the home and they will send you an invite. Ask around and see if someone can get you an invite.

Are there any other regular Tribe goers on this site? We just started going this year and enjoy it. If you are going to be there on Aug. 4 2018, drop us a line.

We agree with the other comments -- it is not just an Edmonton thing. For every 10 people we reached out to, we expect to meet maybe one or two. It can be discouraging. We are now spending more time going to events and meeting people face to face, and less time online.

It is just so much easier to meet people face-to-face. You can tell within a few minutes if there is a connection.

Take her to a club -- but strictly as voyeurs. Maybe seeing all the action will turn her on. If she is comfortable, suggest you two play together in a back room (or perhaps in front of others.) 

Take baby steps but make sure she is on board. Don't  jump into a orgy right away if she is not 100% on board with this.