I won't use the word outrageous for Oasis pricing.  They are downtown - that can't be cheap.  For anyone who doesn't want to drive, they have a great location.  They have a pool which is conversation central and gets quite packed.  Add in a sauna and hot tub, no other club has that.  However, these things run throughout the year and require maintenance and heating.  The other places just need to park a dance floor in the middle of nowhere, so their costs are trivial in comparison.

Our awkward situation is that we don't date profiles without guy pictures which is bolded and highlighted on our page.  If we respond honestly, we are in trouble if the couple then sends such photos and the Mrs declines.  That is basically a gut punch to the fellow.  

What is your generic response that lets people down easy?

My Mrs has the same problem with so many profiles.  At CD, there was much debate on this matter, with many arguing that the guy wasn't worth the picture.   The other argument was that the guy is famous or important, and cannot risk exposure.  Nevertheless, she has as much right to see what she is getting into.  Some surprises are best avoided.  Funny though, some think that his junk is sufficient stand-in for the whole package.  Ahhh, noooo.  Next!!!!!

We seem to be a tiny minority in that our shots are all as a couple.  Guess that it is because we are newbies.

Actually, the first steps start long before the clubs.  Some seem to jump right into it, whereas in our case, it is a slow road.  Step 1 was making her feel sexy.  Turn the lights on and let her know that she looks fab.  She needs to be confident enough to drop her clothes in front of others. Step 2 was stretch the boundaries.  We visited nude beaches.  We got frisky out of sight in the lakes while swimming.    Step 3 was made easy here in Toronto as the clubs have no pressure newbie tours where they reassure everyone of the rules and their safety.  Step 4 was as Kingston suggested which may get her intrigued.  Step 5 was use sites like this one to finds others on the same wave length.  Step 6 you see in our profile which is beginning with low risk shared massage.

Seems like a lot of work and time, but not everyone has the confidence to swing for the fences.  Hopefully, your wife opens herself to discovery.

PleasurePair made the comment in the thread, 'Does anyone meet on SH?' in the first forum.  They don't indicate their source.

Not to knock SH as we are liking many of this site's features.  

We actually enjoyed CD.  There are a lot of features that we liked.  The home page of club events was handy as well as the sign ups.  They make a distinction between full and soft swap couples to help connections.  The forums were quite healthy - comparatively, the SH forums are pretty dead.  There was some drama and road rage that got  some kicked off the site, but for the most part, people were good.

It is now 5(?) days and counting.  We are beginning to wonder if they are going to reopen in spite of the earlier news.

Thanks.  Can't find their post but that is good news.

Looks like Cafe Desire has gone dark.  Anyone know if they are gone for good?