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jessicagirl641
2 weeks ago
Straight Female, 57
0 km · Guelph
About
Starting off with a question 😊.. Does anyone know how long before a standard member can respond to messages? It seems like it's longer than 24 hours....feel free to respond on my wall or message, but expect to not get a reply seeing as I have no responses available for 2 days now 😢
Hi There! Updating again....now it's Almost May 2024 as I look to just reframe my profile information so that I can take some toxicity out of it, though I still will remain adamant that I will forever be very very cautious moving forward as a single female looking for long term, like minded friends.
PLEASE DON'T SEND ME A MESSAGE if you are in your 40's or YOUNGER. I'm not interested. Thanks but no. No means no. Please respect that. I put this in the beginning of my profile in hopes that you can actually read and respect my wishes. Thanks muchly.
If you are a one and done kind of person, move on.
If you send me a hi, hello, or something with zero context, I will most likely block you. If you can't start a conversation, then don't. Hi is so generic and has really absolutely zero effort to catch my attention, so I will not respond.
If you think I'm stuck up, cool. Move on
If you don't think that me looking after my safety is and should be of primary importance, move on.
If I do engage in conversation off of this site, I always kindly request a boundary of a time window with which to talk. If this is not something you are able to abide by, again, I'm not interested in chatting with you. The reasoning is really important to me. I want to have FRIENDS. I want people I can trust, to respect me and not just use me as a hole to fill. I really hope that makes sense. This process of getting to know me and such is a long one, and I understand that this is maybe too much to ask of many, but it really gives me peace of mind that someone would go through the time and effort to create a friendship with me, and that we both respect each others' time and timeline. Hopefully that makes sense.
I am of an age where I will not tolerate men who have small dick energy, and feel that rejection is an excuse to name call a woman. So, if that's you...don't even bother messaging me. I value and am attracted to a strong, smart, and self confident man. <3
I'm still keeping most of what I wrote in my original profile, unapologetically. Don't like it? Don't care lol. A man I met recently at a party said....wow, you have a lot of rules. LOL! If you don't know the difference between rules and boundaries, then this will not work out and you can just scroll on by. My safety is important to me. My reasonings for my choices are my business and you can either respect them or move along. Again, I don't care. I care about people who care about the other person. Full stop.
Carry on to the diatribe that is my profile if you are able to stomach my BOUNDARIES.... :)
In the past, my profile called out a few "terrible men". And what I mean by that, is that I have received messages from men, and if I didn't feel like they were someone I wanted to pursue, they got so offended they immediately went on the attack! I thought it was kind of funny, considering that their male fragility really came out to bite them when I decided that it wasn't a match.
I have also gotten this message a tonne of times "SH is a sex site". OMG...really? LOL. Yes, I understand that SH is a sex site, but I think the important point that people need to understand (are you listening terrible men???), is that just because SH is a sex site, it doesn't mean I HAVE to have sex with YOU. Make sense? I get to decide who I want to spend my time with. There are really wonderful people on here, but there are so many unwonderful people on here clouding the way, making navigation a bit more tricky. With swingers sites, I'm pretty sure there is a very strong association and understanding to the phrase "no means no". Correct?
Being female, my safety is important...TO ME....and it should be to you as well. If it isn't, then I don't want anything to do with you so please feel free to block me.
I want to engage with intelligent, self confident wonderful people. If you are looking for a one night stand, or an immediate hole to fill and don't care about anything else, then I'm not your girl. Move along. I promise I won't be offended.
If you got through the above rant, you are a superhero! :)
I actually do have a great sense of humor, and am fun and like to have fun. I do not tolerate vulgarity in messaging and like to be treated nicely. It works to your benefit, trust me.
Why did I say all of the above? Because I have standards, and morals and also....I get to choose when I am ready to provide personal information, be it a picture of me or other forms of communication. Since I am not a member on this site, I am restricted to how many responses I am able to make on here. Be patient. If I find you interesting, I will respond. If I don't feel there is a connection, I will probably just block and move on. It's not a slight against you, I'm saving you and me time in not starting something that won't go anywhere.
Big deal about me is that I'm very much attracted to CLASS. If you can write full sentences that MAKE SENSE, then we may have something to start working on. Am I interested in someone with intelligence? YES!!! HELLS YES! Someone with confidence in themselves is a HUGE TURN ON, and it will really formulate some great connections if the chemistry aligns.
From my initial profile:
I do like men, and particularly those who can take the lead. I'm not into forceful behaviour, demeaning, or painful activities, but spanking is A-Okay with me (not crazy hard though!!). I am very much attracted to educated individuals, particularly ones that can string sentences together that make sense!
I do not feel any attraction to younger men, seriously. If you are in your 20's and 30's and 40's...It's a HARD PASS. No means no. If you message me, I'll block you. I'm not interested and I appreciate it very much if you would respect this as it's just not something that appeals to me.
I am not a fan of copy/paste messages or lack of punctuation. If I sense your message was just a copy and paste (lacking any type of personal connection or that you even read my profile), I will most likely just block you. The reason (even though I don't need to offer one) is because the message that a copy/paste or standardized message sends to me is one of laziness, and lack of caring. Kinda like throwing shit to the wall and hoping something sticks....lol. That's not my jam and sadly that will mean we won't meet. It could be my loss, or yours, or both...guess we'll never know if you take that approach.
This is a LONG profile. I get that this may be a lot to take in, and perhaps not something some of you may be interested in reaching out to. That's A-Okay. We all have our journey. I'm patient and will await the ideal connection that can work, where we both are on the same playing field, there is no "terrible men" vibe and that there is a healthy amount of kindness and patience, because it will reward you in the end.
Have an awesome day and make it count! XO
ps: If you have an app that starts with "k" and has an "i" in the middle and a "k" at the end, Feel free to leave me a message. I'll respond with mine if you have interested me :). I cannot reach out first as for some reason, my handle doesn't get picked up when I send the request. I don't have a lot of opportunities to respond to mail as a standard member can only make three responses apparently lol. I need to feel comfortable, so please don't be offended if I don't send you a message right away. I would like to know something about you so please tell me some awesome stuff about you and of course I'll check your profile and if I feel like we may be a match, I'll reach out . Again, don't feel offended if I don't reach out immediately. I don't feel any rush in this and would rather find a good match than just a mediocre one XOXO.
another ps: I'm on a roll now..lol. If I block you, don't feel offended. It's just kinda means you didn't read the beginning of my profile about younger adults. That's not my jam. It's not because I hate you, I wish you all the best in the world...truly. Just go on about your day and don't worry...there's plenty more fish in the sea. Also I block when I know the match isn't right for me, so I remember that in future conversations. Again, I don't do it to be cruel, and I don't need to explain myself, but I wanted you to know because I'm honest. This choice of who I play with is ultimately my choice. Thank you for your kindness and understanding.
Vouches
Jimoz2
We had the pleasure of meeting this wonderful lady and oh man what a great attitude, gorgeous and so sexy too! Look forward to continued good times!!
Meets
Interests
Adult parties
B & D
Clubs and Parties
Gang bangs
Group sex
Groups
Oral sex
Safe Sex
Same Room Swapping
Seperate Room Swapping
Spanking
Straight sex
Threesomes
Voyeurism
Seeking
Male
Couple
Age: 55 - 55
Distance:
150 km
