Thanks to everyone who made it to the Meet and Greet last night. We had 50 people in attendance and I got a lot of positive feedback.
The next event is booked for end of March. If you'd like to get on my mailing list, please send me a private message with your email address and first name(s).
Expecting a bit smaller crowd than usual this time. We didn't end up using the group room last time, so I've reserved the tables outside the room only. It's a bit easier to mingle that way.
Invites for the swinger meet and greet dinner in Bedford, Nova Scotia have been sent out. If you would like to get on my mailing list, please PM me your email address and first name(s). If you thought you were on my list and didn't get an invite, please let me know.
What is it? Dinner at a pub. A vanilla social gathering for swingers to meet in a no-pressure environment.
If you answered yes to any of those questions, then I encourage you to come out and enjoy some food, drink, and conversation with like-minded people.
Thanks to everyone who made it to the Meet and Greet last night. We had 52 people in attendance and I got a lot of positive feedback.
The next event is booked for January. If you'd like to get on my mailing list, please send me a private message with your email address and first name(s).
I'm leaving the house now. Meet and Greet is still on. 511 is showing snow covered up Truro way, but bare roads in Valley/city.
Just 3 days away. I'm expecting about 40-60 people at this point, and that always fluctuates right up until the last minute.
Invites for the swinger meet and greet dinner in Bedford, Nova Scotia have been sent out. If you would like to get on my mailing list, please PM me your email address and first name(s). If you thought you were on my list and didn't get an invite, please let me know.
What is it? Dinner at a pub. A vanilla social gathering for swingers to meet in a no-pressure environment.
If you answered yes to any of those questions, then I encourage you to come out and enjoy some food, drink, and conversation with like-minded people.
Thanks to everyone who made it to the Meet and Greet last night. We had 51 people in attendance and I got a lot of positive feedback.
The next event is booked for November. If you'd like to get on my mailing list, please send me a private message with your email address and first name(s).
Invites for the swinger meet and greet dinner in Bedford, Nova Scotia have been sent out. If you would like to get on my mailing list, please PM me your email address and first name(s). If you thought you were on my list and didn't get an invite, please let me know.
What is it? Dinner at a pub. A vanilla social gathering for swingers to meet in a no-pressure environment.
If you answered yes to any of those questions, then I encourage you to come out and enjoy some food, drink, and conversation with like-minded people.
I don't know of anything happening in the swinger world over the summer other than private parties.
Unless you have an aversion to kink, you might consider joining FetLife and checking out the events page for munches (Meet and Greets for kinky and kink-friendly people). There is some crossover between the kink community and the swinger community and there are more open events in the kink community. The more people you know, the more likely you'll get an invite to private events.
Thanks to everyone who made it to the Meet and Greet last night. We had 60 people in attendance and I got a lot of positive feedback.
The next event is booked for September. If you’d like to get on my mailing list, please send me a private message with your email address and first name(s).
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I would like to attend and am hoping to bring a curious friend with me I know several of the couples attending but always would enjoy meeting more people
I hope to hear from you if I am invited or not.
Thanks. Brian.
Sorry, didn't see your message until today. I'll send you a PM.
Just two weeks away. Event here shows 13 guests. My master list shows 36 at this point. I expect that to go up considerably in the next week or so.
Invites for the swinger meet and greet dinner in Bedford, Nova Scotia have been sent out. If you would like to get on my mailing list, please PM me your email address and first name(s). If you thought you were on my list and didn't get an invite, please let me know.
What is it? Dinner at a pub. A vanilla social gathering for swingers to meet in a no-pressure environment.
If you answered yes to any of those questions, then I encourage you to come out and enjoy some food, drink, and conversation with like-minded people.
Thanks to everyone who made it to the Meet and Greet last night. We had a decent turnout. It's actually a good thing it wasn't a larger group this time. With Burger Week, the place was packed with vanillas. I had to keep close watch because they kept trying to steal my reserved tables. LOL I had 70 seats reserved and 68 people showed up. As per usual, I got a lot of positive feedback.
The next event is booked for May. If you'd like to get on my mailing list, please send me a private message with your email address and first name(s).
Invites for the swinger meet and greet dinner in Bedford, Nova Scotia have been sent out. If you would like to get on my mailing list, please PM me your email address and first name(s). If you thought you were on my list and didn't get an invite, please let me know.
What is it? Dinner at a pub. A vanilla social gathering for swingers to meet in a no-pressure environment.If you answered yes to any of those questions, then I encourage you to come out and enjoy some food, drink, and conversation with like-minded people.
I've posted this in the event section as well, but the description doesn't allow formatting anymore so it's hard to read. Also, please note that this event is advertised on a number of sites. The attendee list here does not reflect the actual guest list. We had 109 people in attendance at the last event in January.
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A few flakes that disappear when meeting, including just not showing up for arranged dates. [...] If any one has pro tips on getting through the noise I'm all ears. I'd like to meet more of the people we message.
No shows and cancellations is one of the main reasons that I will not invest any of my time in strangers. I get to know people at events first. I don't go to events with the goal of meeting a specific person who might be there. I go to meet whoever else is there. I may not ever meet that person who caught my eye online, but I meet plenty of people.
Rather than expecting to meet the people you message, why not message the people you meet? That's a much more realistic goal.
As I've stated in other posts, I recommend getting out to meet and greet type events. People that attend those kind of events are looking to get to know people. If you want to chat online afterwards, that may be an option. Ask the people you meet if they are interested in that and want to exchange profile names or other means of contacting each other.
It's funny that you say that so many just expect sex and right away. In my experience, more people are seeking FWB than NSA. I think you are just more likely to come across the latter on sites like this. You are also likely to discover that a good percentage of those that claim to want sex right now will back out or not show if you actually tried to take them up on it.
If I click "Like" on anything, it's because I genuinely like it. The knowledge that it will show in their feed means I'm very, very selective about what I like.
Rudeness is subjective. Politeness is subjective. Something that might be common courtesy to one person may be considered an unreasonable expectation by someone else's standards. Ghosting is generally considered rude. However, there are a number of valid reasons why people ghost.
Sometimes shit happens. On occasion, life throws so much shit at me that I can't help but drop a few balls. Some Internet stranger is likely one of the first things to get dropped. It's not intentional.
Sometimes I need to speak to my spouse before I respond and then I get sidetracked with life. Again, when life happens, some Internet stranger is likely one of the first things to get dropped. It's not intentional.
Sometimes the conversation fizzles out. It's clearly stated in my profile that I don't chit-chat online. If someone starts a message with a clear chit-chat opener, I ignore it completely. However, if someone asks a question about one of my events, for example, I will respond. If they attempt to shift the conversation into chit-chat, I go back to ignore. I could remind them of my boundaries, but why? I don't owe anyone my time and energy.
Sometimes people don't seem to get the message. Someone recently asked an unclear question that I thought was event related. When I asked for clarification, he immediately responded with an overtly sexual comeback. I told him that I do not meet anyone that I haven’t already gotten to know at events. He responded with, "When do you want to meet?" I could respond with a more blunt answer, but why? I don't owe anyone my time and energy.
I didn't always ghost on purpose. I used to respond. You know what? It always -- 100% of the time -- led to follow-up questions or nasty responses. Inevitably, when someone complains about being ghosted, they say that THEY wouldn't respond that way. Well, that may indeed be true, but the other person has absolutely no way of knowing that. Why should they risk their time and energy for some Internet stranger?
What are your thoughts on ghosting?
Quote by jSquared101Quote by motley15I'll agree with you there. To me, when you post an actual ad, that's an implied invitation to contact them. When I invite people to contact me, I do respond.
If you post an ad and don't intend to respond to interested parties then maybe shouldn't post at all
Although, that being said. SH automatically creates an ad for you when you create (and possibly edit) your profile. I noticed that and deleted the ad. Most people probably don't.
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If you post an ad and don't intend to respond to interested parties then maybe shouldn't post at all
I'll agree with you there. To me, when you post an actual ad, that's an implied invitation to contact them. When I invite people to contact me, I do respond.
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First of all I was part of a couple before and do know how many emails are received but at least we acknowledged a message and responded. At least a thanks but no thanks message. When If I ever do get a response saying they aren't interested I do not follow up with a "change your mind" email. I do not respond to a "not interested in single males" because I actually read the profile before sending a message.
So before you quote and lecture me about the etiquette maybe consider some common courtesy when receiving messages.
I understand your position. However, I disagree on the topic of what constitutes common courtesy. Rudeness is subjective. Politeness is subjective. Expecting a response demonstrates an entitled attitude in my book. No response IS a response. Just because I post my profile on this site does not mean that I owe anyone anything.
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We hear what your saying, but your getting off track from the original forum post now. People get confused easy enough already without bringing more content into the discussion.
Well, that's one opinion. The topic is: "Does anyone actually meet here on SH". That can be answered in one word, "Yes". No need for the other 65 answers.
However, there are a number of implied questions in there. Such as, "How do people meet on SH?" And I'm here to say that participating in forums can get you noticed.
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forums for the most part on every site are dead for good reason. Too many posts by too many people. Many are only 1 post so wading thru them takes more time than most people can afford to wast in their busy lives.
That does seem to be true of "dating style" sites. It's not, however, true of more social sites like FetLife or Facebook. I belong to some groups that are quite active. But it's always just a small percentage of the members that actually post. And you know what? The members that post often become well known and sought after. Unless they are posting negative stuff all the time. Those people are shooting themselves in the foot.
I'm very detail-oriented. Not many people are. Have you ever seen that meme about Alicia who is selling apple pies? I experience that phenomenon multiple times a day. Sure, some people don't read profiles at all. But I think a lot of people "think" they read profiles. They just don't absorb what it's really saying. Or they think they are going to be the exception to the rule.
As for writing profiles, many people don't have good writing skills. Other people don't care because they don't use their profile to find matches. And some people really aren't sure what it is that they want.
As a Meet and Greet organizer, I talk to a LOT of newbies. A lot. Many people get into the lifestyle thinking that the thousands of couples they see on some site are all looking for the same thing. They are just as eager. Just as available. Connect with new people in just the same way. Have just the same play style. Some people quickly wake up to reality and adjust. Many don't.
And this is not unique to swinging, BTW. I see the same thing in the kink world. And I see the same phenomenon occurring in the business world, too.
People who realize the value of networking and who put themselves out there will find what they are seeking. You get out of it what you put into it.
Pro Tip: People like me get a feel for people based on their forum posts, on any site. People who whine and complain in public are shooting themselves in the foot. I've seen it happen again and again.
