Hm.  We don't have many rules, actually.  But yes, honesty.  Honesty is probably the only rule we have that is non-negotiable.  Everything else depends on the circumstances.  We trust one another, and we trust the integrity of our relationship enough that we aren't afraid to become friends with our playmates.  Another rule we have is that we don't get involved with other people who are into the lifestyle dishonestly (AKA cheaters) or with couples who are unevenly interested in swinging.  You know, where one person is pulling at the leash and the other one is dragging his or her heels.  We aren't going to convert anyone or trick them into anything!

Other rules that sort of go without saying: 

• We're not allowed to get mad at one another for not being a mind-reader; it's not only our right, but our responsibility to speak up when something isn't right.  If we don't, we get what we deserve.
• If it's uncomfortable/scary to talk about, it's what we need to be talking about.
• Always give one another the benefit of the doubt.
• Always put one another's needs before our own wants (Duh. Should go without saying.)
• Love one another enough to be completely honest, and don't be afraid of the Truth.