It is all about the wife's pleasure and her desires and sexual gratification.  My wife toys with the idea of giving herself totally to another man while they are together and then challenge the me to claim her back afterwards.  I know that I would feel left out but that is so fucking hot.  My wife's mind has me so totally fucked up.  She has for years.  Also she has on occasion told other men that I have not given her proper sex in years.  I should be insulted but I am turned on by the reaction she gets.  We are both willing for her to play separately but we will have to see how that goes. If you can understand the sexual excitement of our marriage and want to have some fun with it, let us know.