My wife and I have been together for seven years. We have three children. We're both new to the "lifestyle" but I'm definitely more experienced than my wife. In my twenties I partied a lot and I had threesomes and different experiences, whereas my wife was a virgin when we met and she hasn't experienced a lot outside of me.

I really lost faith in monogamy when I was about 23 and I had my first serious long term relationship. I saw that both of us were struggling with feelings toward other people and so we experimented with an open relationship. That relationship failed but it taught me a lot that I've taken with me into my current marriage. I've always encouraged honesty in our relationship because I've seen how unrealistic expectations can poison your love for each other. So, my wife and I talk about extra-marital feelings we have. We often share sexual dreams that might involve other people and we try to be open and honest about our feelings and experiences. Swinging has always been something I've kept on the table, but I told her when we first got together that, in my opinion, it doesn't make sense to swing in the early part of a relationship when the honeymoon feelings are still strong. I think, at least for us, its always been something we've kept on the back burner as an option to explore after kids and when things start getting dry and monotonous. Well, we've been together for almost 8 years and now with 3 kids I'd say we're both feeling that things have gotten pretty boring and monotonous and we're just interested in exploring our options.