Hi folks, I either wrote this wrong or you is-read it. I was saying that I've viewed hundreds if not thousands of profiles but have only ever sent maybe a couple dozen messages. Why, because I know I was what the other profile was looking for, wrong age range, body type etc, so it would be foolish and inconsiderate of me to bother them. In other words people can look without being a bother, and you are very right, couples are certainly required. I may suggest you might re-read what I wrote as you are making points that I wasn't. I'll take your last point first, blocked due to age/location. That is exactly what the algorithm would look for, it would check and should I try to make contact with you, automatically block it with "Sorry, you are not a match based on our criteria", (so something like that). What this does is remove the person blocking person and instead goes with criteria blocking person. Think of it as, "you have to be this high to ride this ride", the ticket taker (profile owner) didn't refuse you, the criteria did. Incidentally, I never once referred to any contacts I've received, certainly a swinger site will have ton's more men than couples and most couples are looking for other couples. Any reasonable person (male) should know this and accept it when they join. I understand couples frustrations in being bombarded with unsolicited messages from men who aren't even close to what they are looking for, hence the automatic blocking algorithm. I'm nor trying to start a war, I'm trying to start a conversation, one that can work to find a solution. Oh, by the way your point about vague or basically profiles, again that is taken care of in my idea... the list could and should easily include "must have completed profile and photo" or what ever else works. This shouldn't be adversarial but rather cooperative. I hope this clarifies my position. Cheers

Here is my 2 cents worth as a dreaded single male but this could apply to anyone and I think a lot of folks can relate. I have been on SH for many years and might have sent 20 or so messages in that time yet have viewed most likely thousands. I the great majority of times my viewing is spawned by SH's "these profiles are matches" so I have a look. Very seldom is the recommendation even close but it's always worth a click. Other times it's people who viewed my profile or when I'm in a chat room and visit a profile of a chatter to more or less vet who might have enough common interests to be willing to say howdy. So what is my gripe? When someone visits my profile that I have never been too and just simply blocked me. They had the option to read my "public" profile yet deny me the same courtesy. Basically they are telling me that they are worthy of looking in my window but I have no right to look out my window to see who's looking in. That is just plain bad manners at least and could maybe even be considered bullying to some degree which actually might even open up SH to potential actioning, (not likely but possible). So in my dumb little single males mind, what would be a better solution? It's a two fold idea, 1st create a new section on a profile that lists criteria for contact. This could be a simple click and add such as "must be" with a clickable list and a second list that could be a " must not be" clickable list. These lists don't even have to be on the actual profile but could be a hidden file as it is only accessed by 2nd idea. The 2nd part of this is another algorithm is written that compares the views stats to the profile owners list and if there is any conflict then a message would pop up saying that "sorry your profile does not meet the contact specifications of this profile so your message has been blocked" This would still leave one avenue open for a conversation by still allowing the profile owner access to the searchers profile, as it does now, and if the profile owner tried to send a message and the searcher had no conflicting restrictions on their profile then a message could go through. This solution, albeit rough as it is, could eliminate the hard feelings that can happen no as an actual person is not telling someone else that they're not good enough to look at them, even though it's a public profile, but that they are not a match as determined by predetermined criteria. Sorry I was long winded but I think this is a problem that deserves a solution. It will be interesting to see if it's addressed.

Like I said, you'd have to be able to log into an account initially in order to copy the url. The internet IS a very scary place but in this instance folks have little to worry about.

Okay, maybe I'm dumb but I don't get it. You said "copy YOUR url while you're logged in. So how is some stranger going to be able to get to YOUR profile to begin with to copy it? I believe the whole reason that you can copy the url and then re-paste it is because there are cookies in your browser that store your log in info. If you paste the url into another browser it will ask you for your username/password. I think you are finding issues that don't exist so I wouldn't be concerned with your mother stumbling across your profile in a random Google search.

As my mother used to say, "believe not of what you hear (or read) and only half of what you see". That's a pretty good rule for any online personals site.

Sounds reasonable to me :-)

I've always wondered, do women really like being called a slut? It seems pretty degrading just because a woman enjoys pleasure and orgasms as much as a man. Always seemed like a double standard to me.

Westga1, so I assume you've personally talked to every single male on this site... Your statement of "fact" is very broad to say the least. If you made a statement like that towards a race, religion or a persons sexuality you'd be run out of Dodge yet you can lump all single men onto one category and that's just fine. Basically you're saying that all single men are assholes or dogs but as soon as they become part of a couple they are "decent folk". It must be so nice for you to be you....

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