I don't add people from random requests.  I choose to add ones that I have interacted with in chat, but not all of them.  It depends if I feel a connection, or if there is a reason why I want to be able to find them again or contact them later.  Now that I have learned how to remove people from the friend list, if I change my mind I can just remove them. 

Yes, I see that all the time. I share your rant and have thought this many times recently. When we signed up  my man signed up first to check the place out, get a feel for it, and see if he thought I would like it.  We didn't realize there was a "couples" profile option.  Therefore, we each have our own that appear to be "single" profiles.  So yes, I understand there may be some confusion resulting in the initial clicking on my profile considering it's tagged as a single female.  However, both profiles clearly state "with someone" as the status, and mine lays it out there clear as day "I play as a couple with with my man ... with single men or groups of men....no women". In my "seeking" section it says "straight male".   Anyone who understands English should be able to tell that 1) we are a COUPLE  2) we play as a COUPLE  3) although we ARE seeking single men, no I will not go off on my own to play with you one on one  4) no, we are not interested in letting your wife join us, nothing personal against her, we just don't want that  5) no, my man does not want to play with a bi male, that's why I am seeking a straight male.  He is not phobic at all but that's just not what we are looking for.  I get all of these questions asked of me, all the time.   Either they don't actually read the profiles, or they seem to think that they are so special that people will drop all their stated parameters just for them.  Oh, and location is a good item to read as well.  I keep getting messages from BC, Alberta and the Maritimes asking for hook ups.  I don't mind the ones who just want conversation and aren't looking for more so it doesn't matter where we live, but when you're looking to hook up it helps to acknowledge that you are several thousand miles away before you waste everybody's time!

It's not just here, it is at the clubs as well.  Single women are welcome all the time.  Single men are often relegated to specific days/times and sometimes have to be brought as a guest of a couple in order to get in.  And then, when they are allowed in there is often lots of chatter about "all the single men" and people not liking having them there. We, on the other hand, are one of those couples who DO want single guys.  We have no interest in including another woman in the mix. We look for guys only, in any quantity LOL  The restriction on single guys at clubs makes it difficult for us LOL

Though we want single guys, I do understand what the reasons for no single guys may be and I think there are several. Traditionally, swinging is seen as a couple with couple activity.  Perhaps having only couples gives a semblance of comfort and removal of threat and insecurity. There may be an element of male on male phobia.  There may be the fact that men want to get laid .... and if you are a male in a couple and want to experience a different female you aren't going to get that with MFM. Also, and I think this may actually be the biggest reason, some single men have given the rest a bad rep by being overly aggressive/pushy, not respecting the couple's boundaries and not backing off when told there is no interest.  On here, I have also noticed what was described above, in that even though it is clearly stated on my profile that I do not play without my partner, single guys (or married guys wanting to play alone) still attempt to get me alone.  The biggest rule to follow in swinging is keep it consensual .... which meant, "no means no" and that's that.  So, to all the single guys out there, if one couple is not interested in your advances, just move on.  There are lots of others so keep looking.  Those of us who want guys only are out there, you just have to find us

It all depends on what people like.  Personally, we are not into the fast pace night club atmosphere so we really liked M4.  We've been several times and would go back at the drop of a hat .... alas we moved too far away now. 

It goes both ways. I am 57 and get a lot of interest from guys in their 20s and 30s who don't care how old I am and actually think I must be a lot younger than my age. Personally, I don't care how old or young someone is, if they are legal and able and willing and consensual, then have fun! And for the record, no guys that we have ever hooked up with have ever had any complaints due to my age   

And on the other topic, yes, I constantly get messages from BC and Alberta and the Maritimes, (even other countries) even though I live in Ontario.  Even most of the people in Ontario are too far away for us to consider. It can definitely be disappointing to start talking to someone, feel good about the possibility, and then find out where they live. Some people just want to talk, share experiences, share ideas.  If you aren't interested in developing that with someone who is too far away then just politely bow out of the conversation. 

We are guilty of this no show more chat and ill make a confession to you, I don't know if this will make you feel any better. There are a couple of reasons. 1. Have run into crazy people that are very scary and freak us out. My wife and myself didn't want to get involed because it seemed like all swingers aggressive abusive drug addicts. So it is very important you carefully screen people 2. Some people have family obligations sorry people but, they come first, especially if you have children or you have a sick family member that needs care. Yes my wife and are pervs. But that is secondary to employers and family etc etc etc now I'm sounding boring and I'm sorry for that, it's tough. So try to understand some of us do not want to hurt feelings. we don't mean to but that as my father used to is life. We really want to meet you, really. 

I have to agree with this. You never know who these people  really are so there is a natural reluctance.   Lots of people probably are exactly who they say  they are, but there are some weirdos out there and you know what they say about bad apples.  There really may be people on here who pretend to be going to meet up but really have no intention of doing so.  They lead you on, get your hopes up, then when the time actually arrives suddenly they are not available.  They're just here for the role play.  HOWEVER, that doesn't mean there aren't those of us on here who really DO have legitimate reasons for not being able to connect, or for having to cancel at the last minute.  Behind these profiles are real people.  There are jobs, families, health issues .... any number of things that may restrict availability.  Add to this if you are a couple, then you probably have double all of that and if you want to play together then you have to co-ordinate and come up with ONE time that fits BOTH of you.  Then throw in any travel that might be required, because people on here are from all over the place, and you are adding to the time required, and also throwing in another factor .... financial issues. Having a swing site makes if easy to talk to people, but life still controls what we do and when we can do it.  All I can say is don't give up.  Persevere and some day you might have luck.  We are relatively new to this particular site, but in the past we've had our fair share of no-shows for meet ups from connecting online at other places, but we have also met a few really good people.  It can happen..