I am a complex person living a complex life, divorced for many years but still best (platonic) friends with my ex wife. We share a vast majority of interests, but not sexual interests. I have become aware that many of the "vanilla" people I know have a kinky side to them that I was unaware of before looking via the internet, I would dearly like to connect with many of them & tell them about  myself, but feel would prefer to do so with caution.. Would like to be the same person with them in public society tomorrow as I as yesterday