Update:

We tried this hobby and are way confused. We did all the homework, read the blogs, had our rules ahead of time. Dressed up, got super turned on ahead of time, was at the meeting place early. Met a nice couple - lots of chatter, girls were getting along just fine, conversation turned to heading somewhere for some fun which we did, we discussed our boundaries and everyone was no problem. Then in the middle of the action the other woman starts whispering to me about going beyond boundaries. She was getting really into talking about it, which I guess is ok but it was some "advanced" activity and that had me wondering what her husband was suggesting to my wife. I told my wife after that she wanted to F while her husband ate her and asked her what she thought of that.

We're the couple you see at Home Depot or hand in hand in Yorkville. We're in this adventure together. We have everything we need and are always interested in meeting similar couples. For those of you who have done this before, you are hooked on those moments when the conversation is easy. In life you have travelled to similar places, your career has had similar challenges and you are open to the path forward.

We anticipate the moments when the four of us are having these chats and you realize the attraction is there. Then you start thinking. Your wife chose that special bra that evening and you imagine the other woman did as well. You start to catch glances, your eyes linger and then you check out each other's fun parts. You notice the other husband gets energy when your wife touches him. His wife comes back with a new bottle of wine and a button has been undone.

Before the sex, the mind sex. And before that, the thrill of getting a nicely written proposition.