We're the couple you see at Home Depot or hand in hand in Yorkville. We're in this adventure together. We have everything we need and are always interested in meeting similar couples. For those of you who have done this before, you are hooked on those moments when the conversation is easy. In life you have travelled to similar places, your career has had similar challenges and you are open to the path forward.

We anticipate the moments when the four of us are having these chats and you realize the attraction is there. Then you start thinking. Your wife chose that special bra that evening and you imagine the other woman did as well. You start to catch glances, your eyes linger and then you check out each other's fun parts. You notice the other husband gets energy when your wife touches him. His wife comes back with a new bottle of wine and a button has been undone.

Before the sex, the mind sex. And before that, the thrill of getting a nicely written proposition.