hey..were good and you
agreed ! Starting to have some serious doubts. Have chatted to some great people. Some simply disappear and delete their profile.
Hey all! I'm Stacy! I too am looking for some real people and not just a single guy saying lets meet and fuck!
Looks to be a common issue on many LS sites. We are not experts by far, but being in the LS for over 3 years we have learned a trick or two to help increase your odds of meeting "real players" and their profiles:
1. Look to see if the profile has been verified "in person". Verified accounts will give you an indication if the individual(s) has actually met ANYone.
2. Complete profile details. You can get a pretty good idea of how sincere someone is about meeting for real by the effort they put into their profile
3. Face pics. At some point you should ask for access to face pics, if they cant provide them....obviously they are not sincere.
This list is by no means a thorough vetting process, but we have found them to be the 3 essential factors in qualifying a profile before we actually start typing messages to them.
Best of luck everyone!
XOXO
M and T
well said Mr And T
We have had the same issues as well. It's turning into a love hate relationship with the LS 
I think there are just a lot of people online with zero intention of meeting it's just a fun past time for them. For others it's fun to watch and be watched but again they will probably never play. Everyone has different reasons for being here, the biggest thing is communication! People should be upfront and truthful about what they need out of the website, fill out your profile and give it some thought and detail. Face pics I agree are very important which is why we supply them immediately if we are interested. The verification process is an extra step but really doesn't tell you much as to whether the people are real players, in our case we have played with a few people from the site but they value there privacy as much as we do so they haven't Verified us. As to getting out from behind a computer and maybe hitting a club I would agree that's a good place to start but stay open to private meets whether In hotels or house parties as not everyone does the club scene. Good luck to guys try and stay positive I know it's tough to some days;)
Hey peelcouple I've run into the same problems as a couple or now as as single guy. Have chatted with some awesome people here as well but out of all the couples that I have met (as as single or couple) I have noticed that they are only interested in the woman I bring with me or they both are only looking for her.
So yes it's hard to find a seriously interested couple or perhaps singles. I keep my hopes up because it's always nice to make new friends but some play would be great as well.
I think we have about 4 month in on here and not one connection . Yes we've chatted on here but it seems like that's as far as it goes .. Kinda disappointing . We decided we'd give it 6 months then try something else .. We r thinking its probably has a lot to so with our location just north of Fredericton NB.. There are no clubs and not alot of like minded couples around here ..
the tough part is breaking the ice,,, it took us a couple of tries before we were able to make a good connection lol ( a few stories of the wrong couples we met the first few times lol) we found it worked best when we met with an experinced couple and got introduced around their circle of friends. We found in this lifestyle you really have to take the inititive and get yourself out there to the places swingers are at. And don't expect to hit a home run the first time it does take a bit to sort out what you're really comfortable with and what others are comfortable with. really for the average couple it takes about 6 months to a year before you hook up with someone( unless your looking to share your wife with single guys, then it doesnt take as long)
I don't have a problem meeting people if they really want to meet. I see it as a way to make new friends even if there is no intimate action.
The struggle is real! My partner (Chinese female) are very active in the lifestyle scene here in Toronto. We have almost given up on meeting new people. Thankfully we do have a great circle of friends we play with and attend events with. If you are interested, maybe we can meet up at a club or event in the city. We are going to an event this weekend!
Personal opinion, and my not be shared by other profiles. @masterryan, if you sent me a note to chat it would be trashed, not 1 pic of a female in your profile and a mention of being poly. This is the kind of profile that screams "not serious, just looking to get laid" to me. Way too many single guys on here posing as couples when there are plenty of couples profiles to chose from, I would ignore yours...although at this point I'd probably ignore all the single guys beacuse most are a waste of time and sorting the good from the bad just isn't worth it.
PS: No testamonials, no evidence you've attended any meets = not serious (to me)
Mr OFL
New here and joined to meet a new fwb. As an older women it is not easy to meet a gent who is married and in sexless marriage and want no drama. Plus a physical intimate connection. This SH is better than AM... in my opinion. Eye opener and have had privilege to meet for coffee some nice men. Only thing bugs me are the pics! Post current pics n not from 5 or 10 years ago. I will leave group at some point. Have enjoyed. And beautiful women and men here. Thanks for sharing pics and messages. Cheers!
All this trying and no action seems due to a lack of imagining the real options. Sounds like new blood, the non-violent and highly revered Female kind, is required. Why should so many single do-able fellows not be able to bring in wing Women. Now , I venture the all-too-rare Female winglets, are so prized, if you have one... you worry. Men )
[ behave... b.y.o.f.. They are interested but you have to be reliaby cool. I'm no expert, whadda I know. I imagine this is the case.
