Attending Private Events

Hi.
For us, attending a party always comes down to the following...
i) Whom is hosting obviously. Would be be interested in them ourselves?

ii) If they are giving a vibe of "collecting" attendees ie; trolling just to acquire a selection of play partners, that's a huge red-flag for us. We're not interested in being ticked off of a "list" of people they are interested in, then to be discarded because they realize we're not DTF or providing what they want. Unfortunately we have attended gatherings that felt subtly manipulative in that way. If it feels less like an altruistic endeavor & more of a "trolling" experience for them. Hosts should NEVER create events for their own indulgence.

iii) We don't expect to know who the attendees are, but it's nice to have a general idea. Nothing worse than being at an event and realizing one of the attendees is not in a good place with us. that's awkward. So going in "blind" is a turn-off. Many people have others on their "block list" here, who wants to be in a room with people you have blocked. So for us knowing who the other attendees are is helpful.

iv) A host should always make it clear what the expectations & rules are. If it's a designated "Full swap" play party & it's presented as "What happens is up to you", this is disingenuous. False advertising becomes predatory in that sense. Call it for what it is and make it clear that anything else is off limits.

v) Partly related to the above... attending a party where everyone has established play with one another and/or a sexual history together... but you're the "newbie" or "fresh meat". Yes, we want to explore with people sexually, but NOT become part of a "collective".

vi) Gossip. We like an exchange via chat or email with a host before attending. During that chat there are certain things we look for in the way they talk with us, Gossip being a huge red flag. We were invited to an event and during a chat they started bragging about whom they had hooked-up with. Not cool. Private in person conversations about certain experiences will happen, but online gossip is not a good thing.

Maybe these things are more specific than you're question asked, but they stand out to us.
We are interested in gatherings, even leading to private parties. We are NEVER DTF at any first meeting. You want us? get to know us, like you would with dating someone. if we want you it's because we've gotten to know you... and we like you. Doors open up after that and it's far more satisfying being with someone you enjoy the company of non-sexually than just enjoying a piece of ass - so to speak.

Interesting poll 😀we have the odd private meet & greet here are some answers from our perspective

i) we would never expect someone to attend our party if they are not interested in meeting us, that would be disingenuous.

ii) we wouldn't invite anyone we are not interested in meeting

iii) everyone attending is vetted beforehand and is visible on the event page for everyone to see, we don't want drama at the party

iv) we are crystal clear "no expectations" meet & greet, if you want to stay after the event that is your choice.

v) we always make sure there is a good mix of people that will get along, in most cases we don't know over half the people attending.

vi) we don't engage in online gossip, we will shit talk you behind your back as is proper 😉😀🤣

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Our parties are always in vanilla settings so play isn't a thing. Even the Couples Massage was a non-play event, everyone was very respectful (and naked and full of oli and probably horny) but no play happened which is fine, that's not the vibe we go for.

Thanks a lot for the info OurFantasyLife, we appreciate the info and will consider one of them in the future. I guess in your parties case, we will have to be forward enough to ask the couple to head back to a hotel with us.