I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot you stick to person all round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving some doesn't guarantee not falling in love with some else.

Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the you're in a relationship with.

In those times, love will not you; self control will you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for some else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don't see better people than the s they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.

You can fall in love with any, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realize that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be ready-made. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps it together forever, it is determination and commitment.

Every time one falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed can do that. That's why we must find that person and commit to that , discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can ale through the trying time by being focused and committed.

The kind of love that attracts people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined.